Cheating & Masturbating [TMI Tuesday]

1. Your thoughts–is oral sex cheating on your partner?  When I was in my 20’s I used to view cheating as only intercourse. Oral sex didn’t count. This is my opinion. Well, it was back then. Now cheating includes so much more than just intercourse.Blowjob in the cemetery
2. What is cheating to you?  Cheating to me, includes such things as intercourse, oral sex & emotional exchange with someone else than your partner.
3. Does your partner know you masturbate? Yes he knows. What do they think about that?  He views it as something we all do.
4. Think about the best sex you’ve ever had. Why do you consider it the best, what makes it so? Some of my best sex has been times when I have had multiple orgasms. Other times when I have had no orgasms. Funny, but when I think back to all my former sex partners I seldom think of my ex-husband. I wonder why that is? We had lots & lots of sex. I experimented with him, had lots of firsts with him, but I just don’t think of any of our sexual adventures.
5. When you have nightmares, do you call out someone’s name? No I don’t. In my nightmares I hear myself yelling or talking loudly, but my husband tells me that I just moan in my sleep. A sorrowful, fearful sounding moan and he will wake me up if he gets worried. Because my nightmares are always about someone trying to kill me, something in our room and the room has no air and I can’t breathe.
6. When you’re having an orgasm, do you scream a name? When I was single I had sex with different men. I told myself never say any names because I might say the wrong one. So, it’s not something I normally do, I feel weird saying anyones names out lout. One of my lovers always asked me to say his name. I made an exception to my rule and would scream out his name when I was having an orgasm. My favorite times was when I was on top of him, riding his hard cock and I would lean down pressing my breast to his chest. Whispering his name in his ear. Telling him how good his cock felt and say his name a few more times.

watching porn & masturbating

Bonus: Which best fits your usual reason for masturbating:
a. Boredom
b. Stress relief
c. Saw someone/something sexy and you need to act out a sexual fantasy
d. It’s just what I do

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Welcome to My Blog [TMI Tuesday]


1. How long have you been blogging? I have blogged since 2009. I started with blogger. I deleted that blog. Then started another one. I started several different ones on WordPress and tumblr. Always getting bored, deleting them and starting over. Until I became self-hosted in January 2013. I tried to keep my general & sex topics separate, eventually I said “fuck it.” And started my sex blog

2. Tell us about your pen name? My pen is “Sassy Cat”  Is it a pen name? Not really. It’s the name I’ve used online over the years. I even have it tattooed on my forearm.

3. What is your blog about? It’s about whatever I decide to write about. I am interested in so much stuff. However, I have narrowed topics down to writing about my personal (past & present) experiences with sex. Writing about Borderline Personality Disorder, this is also participating in a year around meme called “Blog for Mental Health 2015.” Lastly I write product reviews. Whatever product that is given to me, I will share my honest view after I have used that product.

4. Do you earn any money with your blog? No. However, it would be really cool if I did.

5. What inspired you to blog? There were really two reasons why I started blogging. The being that I was being cyberbullied and cyber stalked about someone I met on a website called Snapvine. Basically what it boiled down to is that she thought I was after her man. Who lived in another state from both of us. She finally recognized that he was playing her against me. He would stop being friends with one of us, than friend the other. But she & he would blog about me, she would do podcasts swearing at me and threatening me. I finally went to the police, starting a file on her. I sent off all my paperwork and files from the web to the website that the local authorities gave to me. I submitted files to the websites that she was using to harass me, some would do something, others did nothing. Eventually she come to understand what she was doing, she apologized to me. We are not best friends, she’s helpful when it comes to Facebook issues. It’s like she knows that I’m here and she’s there. She does follow me still to this day, but no longer harassing me or bullies me.

The second reason was I started writing about some of my past sexual experiences. Nothing really special, about different lovers, an ongoing relationship I had when I was married (separated, waiting for the divorce), he was married. This was on blogger, then I moved it over here. Some of it I re-wrote to make it sound updated & fresh. I got kind of behind on writing about all my sexual adventures. It became too much, I still have a few in my drafts folder that I write a few words and then hit the save button.

Lately, I’ve been taking erotic photographs and posting to Flickr and Instagram. I really enjoyed doing that. Editing the photos takes some time which does get to me (sometimes). I recently was given a Nikon D5300 for my birthday and will be taking LOTS & LOTS of erotic photos. Consider yourself warned! lol

6. What keeps you blogging? I keep blogging because I still have things to share. Products to write reviews about. I write some of the thoughts that bounce around in my head. I wish I could type faster. That’s one reason I started podcasting or audio blogging. I could get more of my thoughts out quickly being speaking & recording audio.

7. Do you have any advice for readers looking for love? Looking to get laid? Looking for a threesome? My experience with threesomes are one of becoming one point of the triangle. I would suggest do it once or twice  but don’t get too personally involved with the couple or the people.

8. Did you do your kegels today? Yes. When was the last time you did them? This afternoon. (Men: There is no evidence that kegels prevent erectile dysfunction. Source: WebMD )

Bonus: Do you have any special sexual gifts or talents or tricks? Tell us about it. I have no gag reflex. And that makes my special trick giving awesome blowjobs, resulting most of the time in swallowing.

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Night Time is the Right Time [TMI Nov. 18, 2014]

1. When I can’t sleep I grab my iphone, play on Twitter, read some blog posts and try to get tired. I know that I will go blind instead. 

2. My dream bedroom would be full of lots of purple & black colors, kind of Gothic looking furniture (nothing over the top). I want a dancer’s pole in the corner. Huge walk-in closets (two) the room is big enough for a sitting room, master bathroom, big screen TV mounted on the wall. Basically I want a bit of everything in my master bedroom, including a small refrigerator. So when I wanna escape the world, or even my family or guests I have all the comforts in MY room!!! 

3. If I could wake up anywhere tomorrow it would be ENGLAND and second would be SoCal 805.

4. I need to have a routine  at night.

5. Sleeping alone would truly be a nightmare.

6. Night time is the right time to go out partying, find hook-ups, do all those things one can not do during the daytime. Also to cuddle, relax and just decompress.

Bonus:  Briefly tell us about your last dream–erotic or not. I had dreamed about two kittens. One got killed when my car flipped over in a mud puddle and the other kitten was too afraid to come out from under the car and turned into a frog. I was at my apartment when the someone knocked on the door. I opened the door and there stood the kitten who turned into the frog, who had two legs standing upright with one arm stretched up towards the sky. He came into the apartment and ran behind my sofa turning into a little adorable boy who couldn’t talk. I woke up shortly after asking the little boy who he was and his name.

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Love. Life. Lessons. [TMITuesday]

I decided to answer the following questions in a podcast. You can listen by clicking the play button. [Runtime: 15 minutes]



1. Are you happy with your job? Why or Why not? 

  • yes and no.

2. What do you want? 


3. Who first broke your heart? I can’t speak his name. Happened when I was really young.

4. What is the biggest mistake you’ve made in a relationship? 

  • Staying longer than I should have.
  • Believing what he told me.
  • Trying to change him.

5. What did you learn from you last lover/ex-significant other?

  • that sex can be exciting again
  • that sex can be spontaneous
  • that sex can be all those dirty things I want, need and desire sex to be.

6. What novel has been instrumental in shaping your views at any point in your life? Why? 

The Purpose Driven Life book cover

7. Tell us about a favorite TV broadcast show you currently enjoy? Give us a synopsis of the show. 

Bonus: What is your current favorite song to listen to over and over again?


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Sexual Practices [TMI Tuesday]

1. How much sex is too much sex? Explain. Too much sex would be sex three times a day seven days a week. If the sex interferes with daily routine, like work, etc. Then it’s too much sex. If it’s too demanding. OMG. I sound so old and uptight. lol

2. According to the Kinsey Institute, 18-29 year olds have sex an average of 112 times per year, 30-39 year olds an average of 86 times per year, and 40-49 year olds an average of 69 times per year (how appropriate!) 

a. Which group of averages would you prefer to belong? 18-29 year olds have sex an average of 112 times per year

b. Based on your age (if listed), find your group above. Would you say you are well below, pretty close to or high above your group’s average for having sex per year? This is funny, because my Beloved actually kept a record of our yearly sexual activities. Why? Because I asked him to. It varied from 52 – 90 times. The calendars are as far back as 2004. The one thing I noticed was that when I had my accident, was the year we had the most sex. There was a year that we only has sex 52 times, we couldn’t figure out why it was so low.

3. Swinging (defined here)–have you tried it? Will you try it? Do you hope/wish to try it before you die? The closet I’ve come to swinging was being involved with a couple that were swingers. I was their third. My Beloved & I did discuss the idea of swinging. I said I would be more comfortable with an “open marriage” than swinging. I don’t think I could watch. 

4. What is “having sex”? According to YOU and prior to this TMI Tuesday did you consider:
– Masturbation as having sex? Yes or No
– Performing oral sex as having sex? Yes or No. When I was young, I would argue that oral sex was not sex. However, I have since changed my opinion. That oral sex is sex. 

5. When was the last time you received oral sex? Sunday

Bonus:  What is it? It looks like artifacts representing the male & female

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You’re Such a Character [TMI Tuesday 5/20/2014]

1. What is your astrological symbol? Taurus  Does it fit you? Yes.

2. List 3 of the good traits of your astrological symbol to which you can relate. Loyal, creative, hardworking. I am hard-headed. Good kisser. 

3. List 3 of the worst traits of your astrological symbol that you believe do not pertain to you. They aren’t bad traits, it’s just that the following don’t fit me. Very caring, patient, and being stubborn. BUT I am stubborn!

4. What is your Chinese zodiac animal symbol? Horse

5. In Chinese philosophy, The Theory of the Five Elements describes the interaction and relation of natural phenomena. The five elements of wood, fire, Earth, metal and water affect your zodiac sign. Which element are you? Find out here

I am Male Metal-Type person, basically, shows Earth-type personality and Metal-type personality in the daily life.

36% Earth-Type Personality People with Earth-type personality are trustful, steady, loyal and responsible. They are honest, religious, reliable, and keep their promises. The characteristics of Earth are standing still, being slow and steady, and stationary. Therefore the Earth people don’t like to move their body and change their mind too often. They are honest, trustworthy, and responsible. They also have good faith. They can sit in one position for a long time. They accept religion since they like rumination and meditation. They are slow to react. They like to collect things, and enjoy their collectibles at home, but not outdoors. People with excess Earth are stubborn, inflexible, cheap, lonely, plain and simple. They cannot keep their word either.

33% Metal-Type Personality People with Metal-type personality are righteous, faithful, gallant and chivalrous. They like to know and help people. Metal is the substance in which internal particles squeeze and condense together. There is a force from the outside to the inside that keeps Metal hard. Metal reflects light, so it is shiny. It may have a clear sound when it’s hit. Therefore, a Metal-type person has great strength, discipline and enough courage to aid needy people, which may make them famous. People with excess Metal are often unkind and destructive. They are brave but may have no resourcefulness and no intelligence. They have little grace and no mercy. They do not keep secrets.

21% Fire-Type Personality People with Firer-type personality are courteous, eloquent, polite and expressive. They are good at compliments in speech. Fire people are energetic, artistic, passionate, easily excitable, and have a tendency to rapidly change emotional states as well as become aggressive. They love sensation, drama and sentiment. They seek joy, gratification and the attention of others. They like to be invited to a party and dislike being alone.

5% Water-Type Personality People with Water-type personality are smart, wise, frank, and resourceful. They have good memories and think before they leap. There are two types of Water: Floating Water and Still Water. Floating Water makes people active and restless and feel like traveling. Still Water makes people clam and peaceful. People lacking Water are unstable, cowardly, narrow-minded, and have no stamina. They lack intellect, good sense, understanding, and foresight. They also tend to keep changing their mind.

3% Wood-Type Personality People with Wood-type personality are kind, steady, sympathy-sharing, understanding and gentle. They like to help people and make donations. The essence of Wood is a tree. The force inside the tree is like growing upward to the sky. Trees often compete with each other aggressively when growing up. Because of the characteristics of trees, Wood-type people are steadfast, organized, logical, practical, innovative, unique, assertive, fortitudinous, independent, challenging and direct. They like to plan things, take action, and go on adventures and challenges. They are perfectionists who tend to push themselves to the limit and seek out the best, and take first place in competition. People lacking Wood essentially are weak in their opinions. They lack the determination to change their options when situations change. They are likely to be jealous when they don’t have a strong viewpoint of their own.

General Information for Male Metal-type people born in Dragon Month

The general description about this person is opinionated, adventurous, subjective, revolutionary, persistent and forceful.

One word for people born in this month is intuitive.

These people deal with life through their intuitions. They move confidently along their feelings or instincts. They are proud and dignified. They set high expectations or goals on themselves in order to achieve perfection. Their concentration and efforts are very persistent. They are serious and active about their work. They enjoy leadership and have lots of energy to take on more responsibilities at work and at home. It is difficult for them to compromise or accept other peoples’ ideas as they handle things solely with their intuition. They are very independent, but they need a lot of attention from other people in their social life. They have the ability to associate with different people by creating an intellectual atmosphere. They need to be accepted and be at the center of attention. They are very impractical about life, as they are not easily satisfied. Their expectations keep growing, which create a lot of worries for themselves.

Bonus: Briefly tell us something you found interesting about your Chinese zodiac as it pertains to the Five Elements.

That I can relate much more to the Chinese Zodiac and the Five Elements than I can being a Taurus. In the answer to the the above question, the last paragraph is so me! It’s freaky. Especially about being independent but needing attention. Associating with different people by creating an intellectual atmosphere. WOW!

Everything was very interesting.

Bonus, Bonus: What cartoon/comic character best describes you? Take the short personality test and share your results. Test:

I Got Garfield!

Personality Test Results

You enjoy complaining. You’re also a little vain and may be a tad lazy or overweight – but you`re comfortable with that. You`re also quite smart. At least, you like to think so, but people tend to simply agree with you to avoid confrontation. All in all, life is good for you and things are on the up and up. Keep smiling!

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Would You Rather [TMI Tuesday]

Always expound on your answers, tell us why you made your choice.

1. During sex, would you rather be blindfolded or blindfold your lover? Because I enjoy the control of their pleasure. I enjoy their reaction when I give them different sensations. It’s not on huge power trip, a small one (I think). I lack the trusting skills to be blindfolded, also have a small amount of sadist in me that I could easily change the direction of sensation. If not given the desired response. #sickfuck

2. Would you rather watch your sibling having sex or have the sibling watch you have sex? I don’t have siblings so that was an easy answer. However, if I did. I would prefer to watch. Because it’s what I do, I watch. #sickfuck

3. Would you rather be arrested (not jailed) for soliciting a prostitute or jailed for one month for civil disobedience. I am rebellious and have issues with authority so I would be in jail for 30 days.

4. Would you rather give/receive blowjob on a crowded subway car or have sex on a picnic table at a family reunion? I hopefully wouldn’t know anyone on the subway. But at a family reunion (unless it’s the dark side of the family)  totally creeped out at the thought of that or extremely drunk & coked up to fuck on the picnic table. Besides I love giving ——-> blowjobs. Definitively the first choice.

5. Would you rather do a strip-tease for your pastor/priest/rabbi/religious leader or for your co-workers? LOL. For the co-workers, most of them are men, older men. Hopefully they would already have plenty of singles on them. 

Bonus: Would you rather have endless amounts of money or the endless love of your significant other? Why? Love is over rated, disappointing and full of expectations. lol, sound bitter? I already know that I have the endless love of my SO. I wanna try the money side once. I could buy whatever I wanted in attempt to fill the emptiness, knowing the whole time what I am doing. Knowing it’s all for nothing, but hell, I would have a blast while I was buying “love.” #sickfuck


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Random TMI Shit [TMI Tuesday 11/16/13]

1. If you had to be trapped inside a movie for 5 days, which movie would you pick? Hair, Pretty Woman, there should be so many more but I just can’t think of any more.

2. Who is starring in the movie of your life? Robert Downy Jr, Charlie Sheen, Selma Hayek, Jay Hernandez. Just a few off the top of my head.

3. What is your favorite curse word? FUCK

4. What word or phrase do you say most often during sex? when we have sex, you’ll can listen for those words or phrases 😉

5. What word or phrase are you tired of hearing during sex? mmm, when I had my FB he would repeat a few things, something like “You like to fuck **************, don’t you?” He would also describe some really crazy scenes during sex. I would stop listening after a while.

6. What word or phrase do you like to hear during sex? Depending on my mood, I can handle slut or whore, but never bitch or cunt and not baby girl or daddy. That creeps me out. I really don’t have any words or phrases that I like to hear…I love hearing a person’s pleasure sounds. Those sounds a person makes when they are feeling pleasure and having their orgasms.

Bonus: Which sex profession would you attempt? Call Girl, Escort. You must pick one. Tell us why you made that choice. I’ve said in the past I would have loved to have been able to work for Heidi Fleiss. I think because I am one of those few women who can separate emotions from sex. At times I lack the emotional connection to people (I blame my parents) so being a high paid prostitute would have been great. To be taken careful of by worthy men, spoiled without being legally obligated to them. Sweet. Not a corner hooker, but one who gets paid good money. Classy hookers. LOL


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