Lately, I’ve felt good (emotionally & mentally); part self-image, part more socializing with new friends and more important I’ve recently become the object of desire for a few men that I had met while out with those friends. Conversations filled with sexual innuendo & sexual attraction and having some stimulating playback memories I’ve become a bit of an orgasm addict lately.
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Welcome to another week, and another sexy TMI Tuesday!
1. Do you obsess over having an orgasm during partner sex? Are you disappointed if you do not orgasm?
2. Why are you into gay porn?
3. Why aren’t you into gay porn?
4. Do you use drugs to have or enhance sex? (Yes, alcohol is a drug).
5. Do you believe that you are much more sexually open-minded/risky/kinky than most of your previous partners and friends?
Bonus: Do you believe in ethical non-monogamy, even if it isn’t right for you? Why or Why not?
Background Music is “Use Me” by Bill Withers
The first thing that comes to mind is a strung out methhead looking person.
The year was 1988, when I first met him. He was a bad boy with a bad reputation. Older than me by a few years. He reminded me of a young Michael Rooker. I was working when he first spotted me. We flirted back & forth, chatted up a bit, but nothing I thought would lead to anything.
He called me late in the evening or was it early in the morning? The relationship started off on a dysfunctional staircase. He apologized and said that he couldn’t get me out of his head. Whatever!
He asked if I could like to come over for dinner the next night. I agreed, out of boredom in my life. I arrived at his apartment, we ate dinner there. I don’t remember what it was, but I know I ate something. He had started drinking during dinner. We moved into the living room, where the TV was making background noise. He asked me “have you ever snorted coke before?”
I had this shocked look on my face. “Don’t gimme that look, you might fool others with that look, but not with me.” Next thing, he’s pulling out a huge mirror from the coffee table drawer. Lays it on the table, next is a silver container. He opens the container, tips it over for the entire contents to spill onto the mirror. He begins to cut the white powder into a fine dust. Making thick lines on the mirror with his credit card. He pulls out a straw that had been cut down to size, he snorts up one fat line and hands me the straw.
I had never done a strong drug like this before. Some pot smoking, underage drinking but to me this was hardcore stuff. During the 80’s it was all about the drug cocaine, hair metal bands and decadence. I was really afraid of this drug. There had been word on the street about how addicting it can be, but the other thing I heard about it was that having sex while under the influence of this drug was mind-blowing.
The line was there on the mirror just wanting for me. I took a deep breath. Placed the straw up my nose and snorted. My first time doing blow, he smeared his index finger along the mirror to pick up the few particles left. He pushed his fingers into my mouth and rubbed them on my gums. He continued playing with my mouth with his fingers. We kissed after that, I felt the effects of the drug hitting my system. I felt like I could fly, everything felt so clear & crisp. His touch was felt so intense against my skin. I could feel electricity between us. I remember having multiple orgasms that night, without much effort. The sensation of his throbbing cock pounding me was super intense. I felt so in tune with my skin, his skin, smells and sounds. The sex was really mind-blowing. It was months until I felt all that again. The last orgasm was something I will remember difficult for me to put into words. I was loud, uninhibited for the very first time. I was exhausted afterwards; physically & mentally. I did sleep well afterwards.
I dated him off & on for years afterwards. We sex life wasn’t ever able to get back to the very first time. We tried several times afterwards to recapture what we experienced the first time. I still enjoy under the influence sex, however it is always while buzzed from a night of drinking. There were times I couldn’t wait. I would have sex in the club bathroom, outside in the car or just outside hidden from view. Now, I wait until I get home where I’m safe & secure in my space.
There are times when I want to be bitten, hard. There are a few places on my body that push me over the edge. Biting me on my neck, at the curve. Down towards the shoulder, should turn into lighter bites. I’m not all that into nips. Only because like when a dog nips at you, the skin is more likely to be torn. That’s just my opinion and my experience a few times.
Another place I enjoy to be bitten is on my wrist. Start kissing the palm of my hand, work your way towards my wrist and bite. Suck a bit while you bite, push your teeth into my wrist and listen for my screams of pleasure. Oh my, I’m getting warm just imagining the sensation. Keep moving towards the crease of my elbow. Kiss gently, slowly, lick me…barely touching the skin and then bite. Suck and pull just a little on the skin. I have had orgasms this way. If a man is creative, I’m sure I could have the orgasm of a life time. Wait. I did once, ok twice.
Those are really the only two places on my body that can be bitten hard. Hard enough to leave marks. Sure why not. I enjoy souvenirs. I have been bitten other places, like the face. OUCH! That hurt.
Now, that you got to bite me. It’s my turn. For those that know me kind of well, know that I have an oral fixation. Here’s where I think my “illness” comes into play, along with answering those questions I had. I have always had to have something in my mouth. I have my tongue pierced because I thought it would help quiet that need. It did not. I love to bite. If I could experiment just once, being allowed to bite someone as hard as I wanted to, just to feel their flesh in my mouth. Biting hard enough – just to the point of completion of that bite. Sometimes, I can imagine their screams in my head, more the feeling in my mouth, minus the taste of blood. YUK.
I enjoy biting the soft meaty parts of the body. I will really bite a person anywhere. The sensation of having skin in my mouth, my teeth, running my tongue against the skin that is in my mouth. Hearing the person beg me to stop or to yell out. I’ll bite you where ever, when ever. It’s just when the urge hits. I do try to control myself. And for the most part this is discussed or I’m scolded. There were a few men who enabled this feral type behavior. I like biting when the sex is super intense, when it’s rough, hard & fast.
Short story. I was dating L. We went to a party. I was feeling buzzed. We were dancing, having a great time. When the urge to bite him on the chest was so strong and under the influence I had no control. I bit him, right there. He looked at me, strangely. Grab me hand and we ran out to his car and fucked in the parking lot. The next morning, he showed me the bite mark. WOW. I was impressed.
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- Getting Started With Biting (badgerhut.wordpress.com)
1. If you had to be trapped inside a movie for 5 days, which movie would you pick? Hair, Pretty Woman, there should be so many more but I just can’t think of any more.
2. Who is starring in the movie of your life? Robert Downy Jr, Charlie Sheen, Selma Hayek, Jay Hernandez. Just a few off the top of my head.
3. What is your favorite curse word? FUCK
4. What word or phrase do you say most often during sex? when we have sex, you’ll can listen for those words or phrases 😉
5. What word or phrase are you tired of hearing during sex? mmm, when I had my FB he would repeat a few things, something like “You like to fuck **************, don’t you?” He would also describe some really crazy scenes during sex. I would stop listening after a while.
6. What word or phrase do you like to hear during sex? Depending on my mood, I can handle slut or whore, but never bitch or cunt and not baby girl or daddy. That creeps me out. I really don’t have any words or phrases that I like to hear…I love hearing a person’s pleasure sounds. Those sounds a person makes when they are feeling pleasure and having their orgasms.
Bonus: Which sex profession would you attempt? Call Girl, Escort. You must pick one. Tell us why you made that choice. I’ve said in the past I would have loved to have been able to work for Heidi Fleiss. I think because I am one of those few women who can separate emotions from sex. At times I lack the emotional connection to people (I blame my parents) so being a high paid prostitute would have been great. To be taken careful of by worthy men, spoiled without being legally obligated to them. Sweet. Not a corner hooker, but one who gets paid good money. Classy hookers. LOL
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1. From erotica to sex blogs everyone seems to be having intense orgasms. Do you feel like you are experiencing the same intense orgasmic waves everyone talks about? No, I will be honest. I’ve (we’ve) hit a “dry” spell. I will say this, it’s NOT me. And it’s NOT him. It’s the combination of us both. Lately it’s just not working the way it used to. So, now it’s like..”fuck it…that’s too much work.”
2. At the beginning of our sexual lives, we are often let down because it feels like nothing in comparison to what we see in films and magazines. Sexual pleasure is something you learn more about as you get older. How have you learned to cultivate the pleasure that you feel? Yes, however, I have only one regret and that is that I never stopped to pay more attention to the penis. How each one felt, how each man used his tool. I think back, remembering only the really extremely mind blowing fucks or the worst dead fucks stand out in my mind. Others just blend into a stream of ordinary penis’. I would be the first one to stop if I wasn’t getting what I wanted, unless I knew that next time would be my turn.
3. In the last 3 years, has your sexual pleasure:
b. stayed the same
c. increased, enhanced, improved
4. If you are feeling much more sexual pleasure than your lover do you feel the need to make up the deficit or just live in the moment and enjoy what has been given to you? No. sadly this little kitty has to find other ways to make up the deficit. Whether by emotional or physical attention. Like a cat playing with a mice, I need to be stimulated most of the time or surely I will become bored & restless and get into serious trouble with myself & vices.
5. How important is it to you for you and your lover to have simultaneous orgasms?
a. not important – never thought about it
b. somewhat important – I think it would be nice to explode at the same time (however not always necessary as far as I’m concerned)
c. important – that is what I ‘work’ for, cumming at the same time makes everything more intense–my orgasm, my feelings, the entire experience.
Bonus: Do you think that having an orgasm is the same as sexual pleasure? No.Why or why not? Sexual pleasure, to me is what you receive prior to, during and after your orgasm.
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Happy TMI Tuesday!
1. Can you tell when your lover is close to having an orgasm? Yes, I can. Because he will either tell me or I pay very close attention to his breathing patterns. Also, time. Time is a factor with a lover. Some lovers took 10 minutes with no control, others could take 20 minutes or longer with or without control. How can you tell? Listening to their breathing and sounds each one makes (or made). What are the signs? Oh, sometimes, if I noticed a few of them, their stomach would tighten up and their balls would seen to get closer into the body.
2. Ladies have you ever seen YOUR g-spot? No. Men have you actually seen the g-spot?
3. Which sexual position do you find most stimulating?
b. woman on top, facing man
c. doggy style
d. other – tell us about it
4. When you orgasm, are you:
b. make a little noise
c. yell out! (somewhere in the middle of both B & C)
5. A lover orgasms quickly, way before you are even close to having an orgasm. Do you stop the sex once he/she has had an orgasm or do you continue sexual play so you can orgasm too? I’ve been known to punch a man in the chest because they came before I could. During the time when I was having “quickies” in my younger days. I would stop, because most of them would go limp & I was not in the mood to work them again. After that I didn’t normally see them again. There was one lover I made an exception for, because the situation worked for the both of us and he made up for my lack of orgasm in other ways.
Bonus: On average, when you masturbate how long does it take to reach orgasm?
a. Less than 3 minutes
b. 3 – 5 minutes
c. 5 – 10 minutes
d. more than 10 minutes ( somewhere between 10-20 minutes depending on how horny I was at the time)
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1. Advizor: http://advizortoall.blogspot.com
I once overheard in a bathroom, “There is nothing as over-rated as sex or under-rated as a good bowel movement.” Discuss.
I had to read that a few times and yes, I can understand what the person meant. There is so much hype put into sex, especially in the movies & entertainment business. When I was a young naive girl I did think that sex, love-making was suppose to be like it was shown in the movies. I forgot that it was all make believe. Yes, sometimes, sometimes having a bowel movement can be under-rated, just due to the fact that the body is doing it’s thing. (Can ya tell I’m not comfortable talking about shit or should I say taking a shit)
2. the late phoenix: http://thelatephoenix.blogspot.com/
Friendship lasts longer than cumming. which of your online friends that you’ve never met would you like to meet in real life? There are a few of my efriends that I have met in the real already, however it was not anything more than a friendly meeting. There is one that I am hoping to met soon that I hope to meet up with to fulfill a fantasy that I have. I’m hoping that he can assist me by completely it from my sex bucket list. Which do you think you could become life-long REAL friends with? There are several, I don’t have many female efriends, however those that I do have I would so enjoy meeting them and hanging out with, shopping, bar hopping, and all the things that women friends do together. Actual friends, like going out to coffee and movies with, gossiping with, kissing on the forehead, hugging, loving. Yes I would enjoy having some of my male efriends as friends to hang out with, how cool would that be.
3. John D Stories: http://www.johndstories.co.uk/
In a parallel universe, who out of your blog or Twitter followers would you most like to spend a steamy evening with? mmm I would have to admit to no one publicly, only for fear of embarrassment for either of us. Besides most of them know and are very aware of who I fantasize about. What would you do? They know what we would do and why we would do that 😉 Why them? Because they are open-minded, cute, sexy and willing
4. Virtual Sin: http://virtualsin.wordpress.com/
a. What method of stimulation (intercourse, oral, manual, toy, whatever) gives you the strongest orgasm?
b. With what method of stimulation do you get the most orgasms? let’s found out, shall we? *giggling*
c. If the answer to a is different from the answer to b, what’s wrong with your life? i get bored quickly and act out, impulsive. Does that cause a problem? not sure what do you think?
5. Jon Pressick: http://sex-in-words.blogspot.com
Would you rather have a life where you only had sex once a year for 2 minutes or where you have to have sex, every day for a minimum of 2 hours? I wonder how it “fit” into my daily schedule…at the office. Sex with my boss? Co-worker, would i have to return home? Hubby come to work? Do I go to him? Am I excused from work to fulfill this requirement? I would be so much thinner!!! Hot & Sweaty sex. Imagine the muscles?! Invest of a new brand of lube. My mind is in over-drive, can ya tell?
Is there anyone on your partner’s side of the family you find hot? If you could hook up with them without anyone finding out (ever!) would you? ah no..they are NOT attractive to me.
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