My First Instagram Internet Troll Experience [Podcast]

I recently experienced my first internet troll on Instagram. I upload some of my adult photos on Instagram, which I’ve mentioned in the past. However, I have not experienced any negative comments from anyone until now.

I was going about my daily routine. I have not made any rude comments on photos, although I will be honest and admit to thinking to myself “OMG how did that photo get more likes than mine when she looks like that?” That’s the horrible ugly side of me. We all have that in us, don’t act like I’m the only one.

I know that not all my photos are beautiful, but wtf?! I shared two that the troll left her toxic spew on.

Internet troll

I am fascinated by her behavior and had to do some research into what motivates someone to do this.

I basically found out that they fell into a few areas of some sort of personality disorder or having a sense of inadequacy or just being a simple bully. No matter what area she falls into, bottom line there is something mentally wrong with her.

I hope you enjoy listening to my podcast about my first internet troll experience. It’s longer than normal. Let me know what you think.

OH. And excuse the mess, the page is a work in progress.

2015’s 100 Top Sex Bloggers

I read someone’s tweet about The 2015 Top Sex Bloggers on my timeline. I clicked on it. Read through the list. I didn’t see my name, I was crushed. I thought to myself “well, there’s always next year“…and thought of the reasons why I probably didn’t make the list. I made my way back up through the list, looking for some new blogs to lurk upon.

Wait! Is that my blog title on the list?! I stared at it. As if at some moment it would disappear.  I was filled with emotion. I actually teared up with pride, excitement and a sense of belonging. I had told myself when I first discovered the list that it was a goal of mine. Get on the list; and for me I would feel validated. I would feel that everything I do was worth something. Anything. Sure, I know I don’t need to validated, but still a part of me does need it.

I hear the voices in my head…all the negative talk. Push it Out!

Keep working at it. Be truthful & honest with myself.

I would like to express sincere gratitude to those who did nominate me; Teachers Have Sex, Beck and Her Kinks, Heaven’s PlaygroundKinky Biker Mom.

loveHope I didn’t forget anyone. Love to those who believed in me when I didn’t believe in myself. Who are in my corner, when I thought I was  alone. I appreciate my readers, follow bloggers who leave comments and retweet my posts; Marie Rebel, Modesty Ablaze and F Dot Leonora and of course Molly & Domsigns for putting the list together.

 Thanks for the love & support!!!

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New Voice of the Year Award

This award goes to a blog that is new this year and therefore have not been around long enough to qualify for the Top Sex Bloggers list. After much sole searching I have decided that there are two winners of this award this year.

Melina Greenport: I discovered her blog through Wicked Wednesday and have fallen increasingly in love with her sexy, intelligent, beautiful writing. Seriously, if fabulous erotic fiction is your thing then this lady is going to rock your world.

Exposing 40: Exposing 40 has launched herself into the blogging world with style, grace and passion. Her site is a body positive adventure, centred around life in your 40’s. This blog is an unashamed look at, not only her body, but both male and female guests and challenges the traditional ideals of youth = beauty/sex and I am really looking forward to seeing where this project takes her in 2016.

And now with the previews done lets launch ourselves into the main event!

Top 100 Sex Bloggers 2015

1. A Dissolute Life Means

When I started this project I knew Hy was going to make the top 10 but once all the scoring was done she emerged a worthy winner of this years list. Her writing is fearless, bold, honest and raw. She never shies away from the realities of herself when it comes to her writing. She is funny, sexy, intelligent, thought-provoking, sometimes heart breaking, and often heart warming. She also runs the fabulous #Boobday meme ‘a place for us to honour breasts of all shapes and sizes belonging to all types of folks’. In my opinion she is a most worthy winner!

2. Love Hate Sex Cake

I have long been a dedicated reader of Cheeky Minx but 2015 has seen her completely blow me away. Her photography is second to none and when coupled with her deliciously sexy prose packs a lust filled punch that will leave you breathless and returning again and again for more.

3. Malin James

Malin’s blog is a delightful mix of quality sexy erotica and thoughtful intelligent opinion pieces. One moment she will be knocking your knickers off with her erotic fiction and the next she will have you pondering the vagaries of life. She is a skilled and passionate writer, insightful, self aware and utterly engaging, her blog is one of those places that you can happily lose hours of your life in.

4. Dangerous Lilly

Lilly is all the things you want in a sex toy reviewer; honest, smart, dedicated, and knowledgeable. Her no nonsense writing is engaging and informative and damn can she make me laugh. This woman really knows her stuff, and she is my go to site when when I want to get an opinion on a sex toy. She is one of those bloggers who comes across as being totally and utterly herself and her blog is possibly one the best designed and easiest to navigate on this whole list.

5. Switch Studies

I first discovered Ginger Nic’s blog through Elust but doing the research for this list caused me to delve a lot deeper into her site, what I found totally hooked me in. Her writing is intelligent, artistic, and covers a wide range of topics. It is a true glimpse into her life and thought processes that will make you want to read on. There really is something for everyone here, regardless of your persuasion

6. Holden and Camille

In my opening post about the list back in January I said if you knock my knickers off you are going to do well and these guys totally did that. In fact they didn’t just knock them off they tore them off and threw them across the room. Their photography is quite frankly smoking hot. From suggestively erotic to devilishly filthy these guys have it covered, or should that be uncovered? This blog is a fabulous journey through one couples sex lives in the bedroom, living room, dinning room, bathroom, staircase and beyond and whenever I visit there I always end up leaving with the urge to indulge in a damn good fuck.

7. Remittance Girl

If, like me, you like your erotica raw and gritty with not a happy ever after ending in sight then RG’s writing is the stuff for you. Combine that with strong, well reasoned opinion pieces and you have got yourself a winner. In my opinion RG is one of the best writers of short erotic literature of our time. She has the power to make you think about human desire and eroticism in a way that will at times leave you uncomfortable whilst also turning you on.

8. Stranded in Toronto

There is no one else quite like Stranded in the sex blogging community in my opinion. A fine writer, he has a talent for combining sci-fi and fantasy with humour and hot dirty sex that will have you returning again and again to his site. 2015 has been the year of self publishing for him but that has not slowed him down when it comes to his blog. He is prolific in his writing and there is always something new to enjoy on his site.

9. The Big Gay Review

This blog was completely new to us and both of us were completely taken with it. It is beautiful presented, easy to navigate and his pictures of the products that he reviews are not only beautifully done but also numerous so you really get to see the products in detail. Oh and this guy is funny. He has a wonderful turn of phrase that resulted in us both sitting here chuckling to ourselves as we read. I have a feeling that hanging out with Dave in real life would be a total blast and he most definitely has been added to the list of sex bloggers I would one day like to meet in person.

10. Domme Chronicles

I have been a very long time reader of Ferns, in fact over the years I am fairly sure there is not much of her content that I have not actually read. Despite the fact that her kink is pretty much the direct opposite of mine I am an avid reader of her site. She is a phenomenal writer and her blog is an honest frank account of what it means to her to be a female Domme.

11. Seattle Poly Chick N/A
12. My Dissolute Life @nlikes
13. The Power Exchange @talesofmouse
14. Abbi Rode and Told @OCDcrankypants
15. Rebel’s Notes @rebelsnotes
16. Girly Juice @girly_juice
17. Innocent Loverboy @innocentlb
18. The Drew Duality @dualdrew
19. Ann St Vincent @AnnStVincent
20. Jade Aurora Waters @jadeawaters
21. Insatiable Desire @RayneMillaray
22. Understanding Flutterby @FlutterbyFlip
23. Cammies on the floor @cammiesonfloor
24. Aerie’s Room @aeriesroom
25. Seaside Slut Diary @seasideslut
26. Sex Blog (of Sorts) N/A
27. oh Joy Sex Toy @ErikaMoen
28. Modesty Ablaze @ablazingmodesty
29. Denying Thumper @thumperMN
30. Lady Laid Bare @JillyBoyd
31. Redhead Bedhead @joellennotte
32. Hey Epiphora @epiphora
33. The Gritty Woman @GrittyWoman
34. Miss Ruby Reviews @MissRubyReviews
35. Behind the Chintz Curtain @ChintzCurtain
36. Superotica @TamsinFlowers
37. The Sub Mission @The_Sub_Mission
38. Rouged Mount N/A
39. You can’t Tame this Sassy Cat @Sassycat38
40. BD Swain @redswain
41. The Submission of Elle @hispetitelle
42. Temperature’s Rising N/A
43. Ninja Sexology @ninjasexology
44. Cara Sutra @thecarasutra
45. Kitty Stryker @kittystryker
46. Deviantt Kitten @devianttkitten
47. Horny Geek Girl @hornygeekgirl
48. Poison Pen Dirty Mind @OleanderPlume
49. Teachers have sex @teachershavesex
50. Penny for your Dirty Thoughts @pennysblog
51. Emmeline Peaches Reviews @EmmelinePeaches
52. Maria Open’s Up @MSM1647
53. A to sub Bee @sub_bee
54. Songs From His Nyghtbird N/A
55. A Roll in the Hay @kinthehay
56. Apricot Creams @apricotcreams
57. A Sexual Being @KaylaLords
58. Reticent Mental Property N/A
59. Janine Ashbless N/A
60. The Erotic Writer N/A
61. Crista Anne @pinkness
62. Ero Centric @EROcentric
63. Break Out N/A
64. Happy Come Lucky @ht_honey
65. Stella Kiink @stellakiink
66. He’s Naked @hesnaked
67. F Dot Leonora @fdotleonora
68. Tabitha Rayne @TabithaErotica
69. This Girl’s Weblog N/A
70. Under His Hand N/A
71. Toy Meets Girl @dizzygirl812
72. Sex is my New Hobby @SexIsMyNewHobby
73. Exhibit A @EA_unadorned
74. Cara Thereon N/A
75. Marvelous Darling @marvydarling
76. The Other Livvy @theotherlivvy
77. Beck and Her Kinks @Beck_Noire
78. Just Indecerous @JustIndecerous
79. Mr Wills House of Thrills @MrWills_HoT
80. A Kilted Wookie Writes @Kilted_Wookie
81. Artemisia FemmeCock @AFemmeCock
82. Illicit thoughts @Kats_my_Name__
83. Kink Praxis @TGStoneButch
84. Bangs and Whimpers @bangsnwhimpers
85. Vagina Antics @vaginaantics
86. Jerusalem Mortimer: Between the Lines @JaimeMortimer
87. The Lustful Literate @lustfulliterate
88. Ella Dawson @brosandprose
89. Sexologist Vixenne @DrVixenne
90. Frisky in the 916 @jackandjillcpl
91. Absolutely Ruby @Absolutely_Ruby
92. Malflic @malflic
93. The Kiss Me Quick’s Erotica Podcast @RoseCaraway
94. Bex talks Sex @bextalkssex
95. Frisky’s Sex Toy Reviews @FriskyGirl_
96. Kinky Biker Mom @KinkyBikerMom
97. Wank of the Day @wankoftheday
98. Charlie in the Pool @charlieinthe
99. My Sex Life with Lola N/A

100. YOU! Rori always left this last spot free for the all the other awesome sex bloggers out there. It is just not possible to include everyone, I relied on the nominations to gather the list and I am sure there are people missing, but this place is for you because every single one of you counts and contributes towards this community.

Top 100 Sex Bloggers 2015

A Kick to My Balls [BFMN2016]

For the past two years I have participated in “Blogging for Mental Health” year-long meme. Sadly, the last I heard the meme was finished due to the blog owner’s health issues. The meme would not be continued this year.

BUT… BUT….I’m still going to blog for my mental health.

Yesterday I was on a slight emotional high. I was asked to accept an “e-promotion.” What’s that? Well, it’s one of those things that happens in an online life. I started out as a “moderator” for an Instagram account. Then asked to step up to the level of administrator of the IG hub account. Now I’ve been asked to step up to Lead Administrator Assistant. Sure, it may not be a huge thing to most people, but for those of us, like me; who have an “e-life” it’s exciting.

Ok. I can only speak for myself when I say all the above. I’ve been trusted with passwords, codes and responsibilities. How cool? So, I was kind of emotionally high yesterday.

At time of publication of post this photo had only 20 likes

  

However, today it’s a completely the opposite. I’m walking around in a dark emotional place.

Why? What triggered the sudden emotional downward spiral?

Not actually sure. Perhaps it’s been bubbling below the surface. Since I have put on inches, about 10 pounds in the last month. It’s been working on my self-esteem. I was using the concept of posting selfies to get the emotional high that I need. But now with a low self-esteem I can’t do the pictures I want.

I decided to take some pictures of myself today. I had an idea of what I wanted to do. It’s gray outside, raining. Sometimes that can affect my emotional being, but most of the time it doesn’t. I wanted to take some photos that I could post on Instagram. I would like to post my Sinful Sunday photos, but I really don’t feel that comfortable posting those there.

Using Instagram can be upsetting, finding the “in-crowd” hashtags is a bitch. Those hashtags that get you noticed with the groups that you are looking to belong to or to find similar photos to yours. You want to get noticed, don’t you? If not why would you post photos? I’m scanning, searching through hashtags. I look at profiles of women who have posted half-naked photos of themselves. Some of them I wonder…are they real? Who are these women? Where do they live? Because I don’t see women who look like that everyday, at the store, etc. I see the number of likes on just one of their photos. Sometimes, it’s over 300. I look at the tags, they are using the same ones I am. BUT they have all those likes, they have 11k followers and I have 300. I ask myself.

What I am doing this for?

Who am I doing this for?

Why am I doing this?

Why are they doing it?

Who are they posting the photos for?

I read on one profile “Never in a million years would I have thought a social media app would bring me so much joy.” How does one get joy from a social media app? The long-lasting genuine friendships she’s making? By friendships I mean those equal with the ones that we experience IRL. Or cant I compare the two? Real life and net world? Why does this social media app bring her joy? Because I think she’s like the rest of us who get that high from the attention.

   

I just don’t understand it all. It’s like a kick to my balls. The kick is hard, I can feel it throughout my body. My esteem falls to the floor. I try to pick it up from the floor, but nothing works. I can really spiral out of control during times like this. It’s Friday. I know that “Charlie” is just down the street. I could go for a drink, for the random stranger sex or “I hate myself sex.” I could do anything just to get my esteem off the floor and to get my emotions back up to my baseline. It’s times like this when I have to step back. Take a deep breath. And stand still. It will pull down into a dark hole if I let it. I standing on the edge as it is, looking down into the abyss. 

[Photos in this post are NOT to be used without the written permission of the owner] 

You’ll Only have Me and I’ll Only have You [WW168]

Monogamy?!

Ugh.

Once upon a time that’s what I was thought it was supposed to be. Just two people vowing to be committed to each other and no one else, living happily ever after. The End.

No. That’s not how I view the world today. Is that the way my life and marriage is? No. I married a very old-fashioned vanilla flavored german. I was raised to believe that it was just Prince Charming and the Princess. There was never any mention that the Princess would, could fall in love with someone else.

Listen to a podcast from Cat & her Beloved discuss their viewpoint and thoughts on monogamy & marriage.

I don’t believe that humans as a species were ever intended to be monogamous. We are animals after all. We like to fuck, have sex with others. However, some of us can fight the urge better than others. During my first marriage I was unable to fight that urge, it was partly my fault the marriage ended. My ex-husband continues to be a non-monogamous partner. He never changed.

I have my moments when it’s very difficult to fight the urge not to sexually experience someone else outside my marriage. Not that I love the other person, but it’s just all physical. It’s about my physical needs, wants and desires. Come on, we all know that the sex is different with each individual. Some partners don’t give that release we need or want. Other partners give us so much more than we ever expected. What do we do then? Remain monogamous, turning resentful, bitter, hardened?  Remain monogamous, faithful and content with the relationship? Do we step outside the lines of the relationship?  Do we stay committed, devoted to the one person forever? That decision is all up to you. Only you can make that decision.

There were times when I was dating and chose to see others outside of the relationship. I didn’t love those men. There were different reasons why I did what id did.

  • A different physical response.
  • Different sexual experiences.
  • Never wanting to commitment to one if I wasn’t 100% sure that he was the one.
  • I didn’t trust him, in the back of my mind if I felt that he wasn’t 100% in the relationship than I wasn’t either.

Those might be good reasons, maybe excuses, but their mine.

There was an incident a few years ago, when I did fall. I came home that night and told him “we needed to talk”. He had suspected that something like this would happen. He knew the background between that “other guy” and myself. He accepted my personality; my wildness, my curiosity, the flirtiness.  He told me that it happened again that there would be consequences for my decision. He made it clear that I should no longer put myself in a tempting situation. Fine by me, because he is a dangerous person who could easily cause my life to spiral out of control. 

My husband was very understanding about what happened. He admitted he had his moments of temptation. We have discussed it before. His temptations, how he looks at other women. We discussed his issues, along with mine. I understand that we can be in situations that we can not control the impulse. A one-night, while away from home or a one-night stand resulting from too much alcohol. Shit happens (sometimes).

What I learned…

  • That I have issues with trust, abandonment and commitment.
  • I enjoy experiencing the drama, excitement of someone new.
  • I want different forms of sex. Rough, kinky and impulsive.
  • I am responsible for my marriage. If I don’t like something I need to discuss it with my spouse. 
  • If I get “lost” I seek to discuss it with a counselor. A professional, someone outside my circle who can listen to me.
  • That telling my spouse, relieved me of my guilt. It brought us closer together, however I knew that he would understand and forgive my indiscretion. There are many spouses who are not like this. Really know your spouse before you tell.  
  • Make sure that the person who cheat with, has just as much to lose as your do.
  • Know what kind of affair it is. A one-night stand? Emotional affair? Full blown “I’m in love” affair.
  • That I really do love my spouse. I don’t want to hurt him, because he has shown me nothing but true love, trust and goodness.
  • Each relationship, regarding if it’s monogamous or not has it’s own set of rules. What works best for us, may or may not work for the next couple.

I told him, if he finds himself in a situation of being non-monogamous.  “I don’t wanna know, please don’t let it be someone we know.” I think people tend to cheat with people they already know. Someone that there is already a mutual attraction, someone comfortable.  For me, it’s all about the physical, not the emotional.  Sure there are times when a partner strays outside of the marriage into an affair. That’s emotional. There are emotional affairs. That’s much more to deal with and accept. One thing I have learned over my years in & out of relationships, is NEVER tell your spouse that you have had an affair or if you know that your partner is of an insecure nature, easier angried, etc. DO NOT tell your spouse because you are so guilt ridden that your can no longer look yourself in the mirror. That is a selfish motive. Telling them you “cheated” on your marriage because you’re trying to rid yourself of your guilt. Or better yet you’re telling yourself, “I’m being noble, honest and need forgiveness” blah blah blah. Take responsibility for your decision. Own it. Don’t hurt your spouse, just because you can’t look yourself in the mirror in the morning. You’re just being selfish. You only hurt your partner and your marriage. DON’T DO IT. I recommend a one-on-one counseling, therapy of some kind to get rid of that shit on your conscience. Learn ways to “talk” to your spouse about what’s bothering you in your marriage. I wouldn’t even talk to a religious person such as a priest, minister, etc. Confess you “sin” to your God in your prayer closet, then let it go.  

When You think about confessing you should ask yourself …

  • Why are you gonna tell your spouse about your infidelity?
  • Will you be willing to accept the “challenges” ahead? After you confess. Any and all demands of your spouse.
  • Do you know the triggers that pushed you in that direction of cheating? How will you prevent it from happening in the future?
  • Are you willing to pick up all the pieces of the brokenness?
  • What about the person who cheated with? What about their life? Are you willing to accept the damage you may or may not have caused?
  • Are you being pushed into confessing by the other person? Now it’s a form of damage control?
  • Are you willing to work through the emotional damage done to your marriage after you confess?
  • Willing to forgive your spouse when & if in their anger they “out” you to every one? Your kids, family, co-workers, etc?

There really is so much to think about when being in a monogamous relationship and then becoming wayward. Be careful when you walk through that door, because trying to close it can become too difficult when doing it alone. However, if you fell in love with the other person that you’re cheating with, that’s something different. You need to really think about the outcome of your current situation. Looking deep within to find out what pushed you to seek company else where. There are never any easy answers.

Read more about my internet relationships.

I no longer believe there are “set rules” for a loving monogamous relationship. If two people decide and agree between themselves what’s best for their relationship, then where is the problem? Is it because society says “monogamy!”  From personal experience I know that we can easily love someone else. Love them, perhaps not the same as the first partner, but equal to that love. I know that I have been emotionally attached to someone else during my marriage. My husband was the one to point it out to me. “He loves you in his own way, from a far. I think he loves the idea of you.” That was about my 805 muse. Somewhere during the course of our friendship I can say I fell in love with him, not in the conventional way. Maybe it wasn’t love, but a strong attachment. I had spent long hours, daily conversations with him. There was a time when I spent more time with him than my spouse. My spouse was aware of all of it. I don’t take risks. I wouldn’t risk my marriage, non I would never gamble with losing my marriage. My 805muse & I knew that we felt something for each other. We eventually drifted apart. I last heard from him last July 2014. It was our anniversary when he called me. I was too busy to chat with him. I still feel something for him, perhaps I always will. However, each year his memory fades.

Deep inside I know that my spouse & I both fight everyday to keep our urges for getting the best of us. I don’t want to hurt my spouse and I know he doesn’t want to hurt me. That’s the main motivation that keeps us monogamous. 

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Tan Lines [SS225]

Most of the week I’ve worked out in the back yard, trying to catch up on all the little projects that I needed to finish. While I was working outside in the blistering sunny weather, I wear my swimsuit top, so I could work on my tan lines.

Tan Lines

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Come to Me [SS215] 3

It’s Over [BFMH2015]

Ending a friendship is never easy.

Especially when there was time invested into it. When there were others involved not just the two people. However there are times when the  friend doesn’t get it. Why I ended the friendship. It’s easier when the friend wasn’t really a friend after all.

I didn’t care if he was having an affair. It’s that he couldn’t confide in me about it, when I asked him about it.

His first words were I’m not here to beg forgiveness. 

I might have forgiven him if he would have said sorry I hurt you. But again, I realize that he never really thought of me as a friend. Because friends don’t treat each other like that.

He didn’t say he was sorry for hurting my feelings. He was too concerned with me judging him for his decision to have an affair. I could care less about his affair. I wanted to hear from him that he was sorry for not telling me about it. I was angry that I had to find out by seeing another woman’s pussy, shoes and his dick. I understand wanting to experience new adventures. One must be smart about it.

A cheating husband must know how to play the game so that he doesn’t get caught. But my former friend wasn’t smart. He posted photos of his affair online or he allowed his mistress access to his password and allowed her to post the photos online. He was not responsible for her actions, he could easily blame her for everything if it went wrong.

Rule #1 of Cheating.

NEVER BRING THE MISTRESS TO YOUR HOME! Even if she’s your wife’s best friend and has a reason to be there. Don’t ever be at your home alone with her. Sure, it’s a great thrill to push that envelope of getting caught, don’t tempt yourself with that thrill.

Rule #2 of cheating…

NEVER TAKE PHOTOS.  Of  your dick (especially if it’s easily identifiable). Not of your mistress’s pussy. Especially no of any your  surroundings (like insides of homes or personal work stations, keep it to hotels, parks, general everyday areas) that can ID you later.

JESUS…you’re like a criminal, keeping evidence around of your infidelity will only get you could later. Do not keep any souvenirs of your crime.

DO NOT post on a social media post that your best friend is also a member of.

My former friend doesn’t know how to play the game. I see bad things ahead for him. I think that his fantasy, will become his curse. Most women that are in affairs will eventually what more that what they are getting. Why is that? I think this woman will be his downfall.

NEVER FUCK YOUR WIFE’S BEST or CLOSE FRIEND.

Be original – fuck a stranger or someone that doesn’t live close to you (like in another town).

I see his life turning out badly. Because eventually he won’t be able to rid himself of her. Because she is his wife’s close friend. She will be a reminder that he lost his best friend. The thrilling naughty feeling that he once experienced will no longer be there with her. Because thoughts of me will be lurking in the dark corners of his mind. Along with thoughts of his marriage, wife and family. Ah the shame of it all.

All he had to do was tell me about it. Not to hide behind a fake profile. He says “a secret relationship is just that.” He didn’t seem to understand that what he was really telling me is that it was ok for me to tell him my shameful dirty secrets. He didn’t trust me, his best friend enough to share this. He was too concerned with me judging him for having the affair in the first place. He uses the excuse that he wanted to experience what I wrote about. My past sexual adventures. I knew when I was young I never wanted to be in the position that he was in. When you look back on your life and realize that you have only fucked ONE person in your life. I wanted to experience everything I could before I finally settled down. I made huge mistakes along the way, but damn. I would never use the excuse of my best friend’s blog making me decide to have an affair because I realized my life was pathetic. Basically, I was never his best friend. His wife was right when she told me “you’re more like his hobby.” I foresee lots of heartache for his future. He has no clue what he’s in for. I wish I could be there to see his life implode. Guilt is a powerful emotion. Word of advice: BE CAREFUL what you WISH for BECAUSE it MIGHT COME TRUE.

What did I learn with all this? That I made the mistake of getting too comfortable with another person. I should have never taken it past the general conversation. I will not do it again. I will not allow any one get that close again.  The other thing I learned is that this game left me with no other in the wings. Stranger still that I have no desire to fill that space with a new someone. No other person is waiting in the wings. I’m gonna try to enjoy being without for a while. Lesson learned.

AudioBoom is an AudioBUST

Tuesday I woke up to see the newest version of Audioboo, now called AudioBoom. There was a few things that I noticed that I didn’t like out of the starting gate. There is so much disappointment with this new updated version. The small community that I am a part of is hurt, confused and disappointed. Some feel that this is the beginning of the end of the community as we know it to be. I highly doubt it’s the end, yet I’m sure that some (such as myself) will be looking elsewhere to record. Others might stop all together recording, others might try to find other ways to record to bypass the audioboom app. There will always be some community there, until the site closes down. The community might not be as tight-knit as earlier times. I will always be around.

Audio Error. Audioboom is an AudioBUST

Audio Error. Audioboom is an AudioBUST

You can listen to my podcast that I talk about some of the apps. Keep in mind that the written post and podcast do not contain that exact material. [Thanks to GingerTom for the background music]

There are just a few issues I have, otherwise I am fine with the new version.

  • I do NOT like that there is an auto-play when opening the app.
  • I do NOT want to hear anyone else but those that I am following.
  • I do NOT to hear any other channels. I just want those members that I am following in my stream.
  • For me, it’s difficult to found, listen to the most recent, current posts from those members that I am following. I ended up going to the main website page to find the recent stuff.
  • Bottom line it is difficult for me to maneuver around in the app to listen to just the people I want to hear.

I have always been into doing audio. It’s so much easier than typing out the words. Besides I believe that the listener can hear my emotion in the audio. I like to review some of the audio apps that I come across, to see their potential. Below are some of the apps, websites that I have used or reviewed. Please feel to add any information that could be of use to someone who might be considering using or downloading one of these apps.

I added a few issues that come to mind, both positive & negative. Each app offers something different. I have not found an app/website that offers everything. The closest I have found is Voqel. Downside; only an iOS app available.

Chirbit – Has potential for community or lone wolf activity. Chirbit iOS app is 99 cents. Recording space depends on the space you have on your phone. Ability to share, embed and voice or text comment. Has website to view members profile page. I do not like the look of the app or website. The colors are dab.

Ipadio – Community. Can upload files, including location and photos. Can share to social media. Can use telephone to call app to record. There is no voice commenting only text. The app is solely for recording, unable to view other members or main webpage. All commenting, viewing and listening needs to be done on main webpage or by RSS or itunes.

Voicebo – Very similar to AudioBoom, however there is only 5 minutes per audio. The community isn’t a strong one, has potential. Tag section and description section could allow more characters. Only text commenting within the app. Can subscribe via RSS feed. The app is pretty easy to find your way around. If you sign up there, PLEASE tell Brett Wilson that Cat sent ya!!!


Eevzdrop  – There is no uploading files on this app. No website to view a member’s profile page. There is 10 minutes of recording time. After uploading your “drop” there is no option to edit. You can only share to Facebook, not to Twitter. You can copy the URL and share it.

Dubbler/Yappie – Voice filters. Some sense of community. Time limit on recording is 60 seconds.

VoiceByte – You only get 30 seconds to record. It’s great for a promo or sharing a statement. Ability to include a photo and link to that recording. Can share to Facebook, Twitter and Friends. There seems to be only a handful of users here.

Voqel – This app wouldn’t even let me sign up. The “timer” just kept going, even after deleting it and reinstalling the app. I went to the website and was successful in creating a profile. Everything about this really looks interesting, promising. I will have to say this is so far the best of the community formed audio/broadcasting/podcasting networks out there.  Files can be uploaded from the website and members can also record via microphone. The website is user-friendly with detailed “how-to’s.” You can even create private groups. Sadly, there it is only available on iOS. There is so much to this app and website. Two thumbs up for this one. You can view my first recording >HERE<

CLICK the microphone icon below to go to my Voqel profile page.

 

Micbytes – Waste of time. No activity since August of 2014. Can’t share with Twitter or Facebook after uploading the post. Too vogue of an app.

Soundcloud – I stopped using this after the plans were introduced. My account has 3 hours left. I did like the app and the website. Those site is mostly filled with DJ’s. I guess “Lordes” was discovered after uploading her tracks to Soundcloud.

Spreaker – There are plans you can purchase. My account only has 10 hours left and I can record up 30 minutes. After that I would have to purchase a plan. I did really like this app & website. However, there cost is my main issue.

Blog Talk Radio – I used this for two years or more. Cat’s Tales Podcast. Main issue I had is that the sound quality is total crap! You need a phone to use this site. There is no app for this site. You use your landline or cell phone to record your audio. You can upload 3 mp3’s to use during your broadcast. You get up to 30 minutes free, with 15 minutes extra also free. I called the 15 minutes “the after party.” A member can schedule a show/broadcast to air live with a chatroom during non peak hours. Only paying members get access to prime time slots. A member can share to Twitter & Facebook. The interactive dashboard is pretty easy to use. There are a lot of good qualities about BTR, the whole set up is really cool. The “Studio” that a member uses to record their broadcast or to upload a file. A member can upgrade, starting at $39 per month in which a member can use Skype to record their show. There are more bells & whistles with the upgrade.

Check Out Lifestyle Podcasts at Blog Talk Radio with SassyCat38 on BlogTalkRadio

 

 

PodOmatic – Mostly for music DJ’s. There is a storage limit of 500MG and bandwidth of 15GB. Not sure if it’s restarted after 90 days or if the member has to upgrade. The basic plan is $9.99 per month. A member can edit their profile page.

Mixlr – I downloaded this one. But there was something about it, that I couldn’t figure it out. The way it looked bothered my senses. It was unappealing to me. So if you can share some insight on this app and website that would be great.

Melt – There is only 60 seconds or 30 seconds of record time. There is a feel of community there. I do like the embed player. You can read my full review >HERE<. There is no main website. This app seems to be only available in iOS. I would use this more to toss a single thought into the air on twitter.

Here are a few other iOs apps that I haven’t “tested.” They look kind of tame, simple and similar to Melt, Yappie, Dubbler and VoiceByte.

I noticed that most of these apps are iOS only. A few have android, Windows versions available. Do you have a recommendation for an audio, voice, broadcasting app? Share it. I need to nick my Beloved’s new Galaxy to visit the app store to see what’s available. BUT if you already tried something, drop me a comment. Share your experience.

Blank Profile

Currently on a website that I will not share, my profile sat empty. There was no photo, no vital information listed, just the general location. There was nothing on it, however an older man decided to message me inquiring about a club that is in the area. So he thought it was in the area. He was wondering if I knew anything about it. The conversation starts out like this…

Hi,
Don’t think we have talked.
Did you live in the Chicago area recently? Do you know anything about a ******* club in ****** IL near ****** that was called ************** and now has another name. I can’t seem to find out what it has been changed to .
Nice to see a ************ here with the kids. B

Sorry I’m unable to assist you with any information. I’m about ——– north of ———-. Don’t know anything about the club. Hope you find the info you’re looking for.
-Cat

Cat,
Was the club in ——- still doing business in ——?
Do you remember what the name of the club was?
Thanks 

i’ve never been there but last i read it was called ………I think 

I just googled the information he gave me about the location and the previous name and came up with the location, along with the website. Why was that so difficult to do for him? He went on to send me more messages about general stuff. He mentioned that my profile caught his eye because it had nothing on it. REALLY?! Oh and that he wanted to know how close we live to one another. Good Grief. I give him an A+ for effort for trying to reach out to a stranger and risking the possibility of being rejected. However, it’s a bit more of a reach. I’m already annoyed with his approach. Wait. not his approach, but his words, the “lies” he was telling to try to get information or attempting to find a way in. I know that doesn’t make much sense, it’s like when you’re lost and you stop and ask someone for directions. They say they don’t know how to get there, you normally just move onto someone else in hopes of finding your way. That’s how I feel with this man. Just  move on to the next person who knows what you’re talking about.

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