Doggy Style Spreader Bar with Wrist & Ankle Cuffs [Product Review]

I don’t own a lot of BDSM sex toys. I’ve wanted to try a few new things. Sexy Slave, an estore provided me with this cool spreader bar kit. Sexy Slave is also providing the prize for the giveaway I am hosting. You still have time to enter! Winner will be announced December 26, 2016.

 

Doggy Style Spreader Bar with Wrist & Ankle Cuffs

 

Included in this kit:

  • 4 Adjustable Velcro Wrist/Ankle Padded Cuffs
  • 1 Ball Gag
  • 1 Blindfold

Doggy Style Spreader Bar with Wrist & Ankle Cuffs from Sexy Slave.

I received a 3 piece doggie style leg spreader that has ankle & wrists cuffs, ball gag and blindfold in the Amazon brown box. Inside the product was in a sealed silver bubble-lined envelope. The product needed two of these bags overlapped to cover the item which was inside a clear plastic bag sealed with a clear circular sticky. The spreader bar was inside and the two items were in separate zip-lock type bags.

The Spreader bar is about 16 inches long. The ankle cuffs are not detachable, secured as one piece of soft nylon material that makes up the bar. There are two separate bars within the securely sewed nylon material that prevent meg movement. Add 6 inches of nylon material for each ankle. Each ankle cuff is lined with a soft thick velour material.

What I liked about the Spreader Bar…..

  • The price is reasonable for the 3 items in this kit.
  • The product arrived quickly from the Seller.
  • The nylon material that covers the bar is thick and doesn’t irritate the skin. The velour material was thick on the inside of the ankle & wrist cuffs.
  • The ball gag has holes through it for easy breathing. It is about 1.5 inches in diameter and fits around the head 16 -20  inches. I like this ball gag better than the hard plastic one I tried before. The gag secures by a buckle.
  • The bar is comfortable to wear, doesn’t irritate the skin. A soft velour material is on the inside of each cuff which also is good for absorption of sweat.
  • Each cuff is secured by Velcro, for a comfortable fit. But the cuffs are secured to the bar by a heavy stitching.

What I didn’t like about the Spreader Bar…..

  • That the ball gag was just a little to big. We had to punch a few extra holes in it to make it feel more comfortable. I did notice with my experience that if the ball wasn’t centered that one side would “pinch” the corner of my mouth and make it a little raw.
  • I do have a concern about the cleaning of the ball gag since the ball is movable and is secured on a section of leather material. I wonder about mold or bacteria growing after the material remains wet and/or air dries.
  • The mask is a kind of cheesy, more like a cheap little add-on. It is thin, light shines through, but not easy to detect items.
  • Not sure how one cleans the bar.

 

Would I recommend this Spreader Bar kit?

I would have to say yes. Because it is worth the price (less than $20) The bar is sturdy, durable and covered in a thick and comfortable nylon material. The ball gag has breathable holes, thick material and is unlikely to fall apart quickly. The bar is comfortable to wear, it doesn’t irritate my skin. Although I did find that using this spreader is hard on the hamstring muscles if the muscles are tight. Start stretching them out before using to prevent leg cramp!

The company offers a 30 day hassle free return policy

[Disclaimer: I received the product complimentary for reviewing purposes. The blog post may contain affiliate links]

Lektor Zipper Mouth Muzzle [Review]

I am really digging my new Lektor Master Series Zipper Mouth Muzzle courtesy of Wicked Butterfly. I was very excited to read that I was receiving the Master Series Lektor Zipper Mouth Muzzle. I received the product rather quickly from Wicked Butterfly.

Master Series Lektor Zipper Mouth Muzzle

When I opened the main box, the mask itself was inside a sealed plastic pouch. Which I liked because I know that no one else had tried this muzzle on before I did.

When I added this to my wish list, I did it because I thought it was so cool looking & a bit intimidating. I thought sure, it’s a muzzle for a submissive, but I plan to wear it while riding my motorcycle. That’s right. I love to “freak” others out when I’m riding my motorcycle. This Master Series Zipper Mouth Muzzle is something different and cool looking. I really go for the different, unique and odd items to review. I also love adding the items for photos and of course playtime.

What I liked about the Master Series Lektor Zipper Mouth Muzzle:

  • Its “one size fits all” which to some might be a problem. When trying this muzzle on, it’s basically stretching & pulling the elastic bands over your head.
  • The muzzle is nice & thick. The outside is a shiny vinyl and the inside is neoprene.
  • The price is reasonable. At Wicked Butterfly its only $19.95
  • There is a metal zipper for the mouth. This muzzle does muffle a persons voice while wearing it, even with the zipper opened it can be difficult to understand the person wearing it.
  • Six metal “dots” surrounding the mouth zipper.
  • Two holes for your nostrils with the seam up the middle of the muzzle
  • This is a half-faced mask that covers the lower part of the face. Under the chin, over the nose area.
  • The muzzle is comfortable to wear, however keep in mind that it is a “one size fits all. This means that it may be larger in some areas than others. There seems to be extra room in the chin area.
  • There are no instructions on the box or inside for cleaning. It seems simple enough. Outside can be wiped down easily with baby wipes or a soapy washcloth. The inside material looks like it can be washed. I would hand wash it thoroughly after wearing it for a long time, because of perspiration.

What I didn’t like about the Master Series Lektor Zipper Mouth Muzzle:

  • The straps on the muzzle are not adjustable. To some, this might be a problem. But after I tried it on, I do like how “tight” it fits over my head & face. But then I think about loose elastic resulting from the stretching & pulling from the on/off process.
  • It’s easiest when you pull both elastic straps out ward and moving over the back of the head, while placing your chin inside the muzzle first. Then adjust hair & muzzle.
  • The muzzle does push into the bridge of my nose and be a bit painful at times.
  • There is extra material around the mouth area on the inside of the muzzle. Which can be annoying when trying to actually speak. It annoyed me a bit. The mouth area did “puff” out a bit, didn’t quite line up with my mouth. But I wasn’t expecting it too since it is a “one size fits all” kind of item.
  •  After wearing the muzzle for about 20 minutes I started to get hot & sweaty under the muzzle. This is one of the reasons why I will be wearing it to ride my motorcycle. I know my face will stay warm.

Using this muzzle to better control your partners speech. Opening & closing the mouth zipper makes a slight difference in the sound of the muzzled persons voice, but not much. However when I was wearing it, the mouth area doesn’t fit directly over my mouth, which is to be expected with an item that is a “one size fits all.” For the most part I really like the Lektor Master Series Zipper Mouth Muzzle.

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[Disclaimer: I received this product at a discounted or complimentary price for reviewing purposes. This will not influence my opinion or experience of this product. The blog post may or may not contain affiliate links]

Bound by Fear

 

Sometimes I feel to afraid to do anything; to make decisions. The fear I may make the wrong choice.  The fear of judgement if I say or do something that isn’t acceptable.  The fear of being who I want to be, that others may walk away from me leaving me to stand alone.  I’m bound by fear. I know I can break free. It feels secure & safe being bound by fear, because I have an excuse for my behavior. For today, this is how I feel and tomorrow is a new day.

Thanks to topcotoyz for providing me with the two props in this photo. Japanese Silk Love Rope Gag Ball and the Japanese Silk Love Rope Wrist Cuffs.

Elust #61

Photo courtesy of Maria opens up

Welcome to Elust #61

The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #62? Start with the rules, come back September1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!

~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~

Bloggers, please
I Touch Myself
Stunt Porn / People Porn

~ Featured Post (Molly’s Picks) ~

Is sex unsexy? A ‘His & Hers’ post
Van Gogh, an erotic author and a selfie…

 

~ Readers Choice from Sexbytes ~

*You really should consider adding your popular posts here too*

His Desires

All blogs that have a submission in this edition must re-post this digest from tip-to-toe on their blogs within 7

days. Re-posting the photo is optional and the use of the “read more…” tag is allowable after this point. Thank you, and enjoy!

 

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

Anorgasmia in women
One Week On
chatterbox
Safe Craigslist Hookups
Online Dating: How to Talk to People
Stealth Sex Toys-Stash Management
Last Longer In Bed For Men Naturally

Erotic Non-Fiction

Spicing Up Sex Life
Gasp, Shake, Thank You
Again and Again
Fapping to My Photos and Stories
Did you miss me?
Desire….What happens when you can’t succumb?
Off Balance
On the Sofa
The Solace of My Body
Self Given
Orgasms & Ice Cream
Skid Marks

Sex News,Opinion, Interviews, Politics & Humor

Nasty
Jacky au royaume des filles
What makes a sex writer?
Dubrovnik whore as metaphor 4 Balkan politics
Am I Pretty or Ugly?

Erotic Fiction

Lonely observations
Fucking and Being Fucked
The Churning Black, Part 4
A Return to Purpose
Bang on Target!
Polished
Please
My Night With Lilith

Writing About Writing

Words That Shouldn’t Be In Erotica
Transhumanist Erotica: Jacked In

Blogging

Just One Look

Thoughts and Advice on Kink and Fetish

The Hotness Of Cockteasing A Guy In Chastity
My eyes are over here
Submissive Men 101 Facts
Emotional Masochism
The time I made him make me safeword

Poetry

Frame Game – A Lusty Limerick

Events

Diana J Torres- Vagaculation Workshop

E[Lust] #60

Photo courtesy of Chintz Curtain

Welcome to Elust #60

The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #60? Start with the rules, come back August 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!

~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~

Shame Hurts

Of Cocks and Cunts: The Language of Erotica

#RealBodiesAreSexy

~ Featured Post (Molly’s Picks) ~

I may never suck another cock, but I’m still

The sofa

 

~ Readers Choice from Sexbytes ~

*You really should consider adding your popular posts here too*

All blogs that have a submission in this edition must re-post this digest from tip-to-toe on their blogs within 7

days. Re-posting the photo is optional and the use of the “read more…” tag is allowable after this point. Thank you, and enjoy!

 

Thoughts & Advice on Kink & Fetish

My Aftercare
YKINMK but My Kink is Not YOUR Kink either
Nerds, Pervs, and Jeffrey Dahmer
Sex Is Simple. That’s Why It’s So Complicated
Cuckolding. The Step Child of BDSM?
What Is A Man’s Role At A CFNM?
Happily whipping Jesus
What are your views on the ethics of kink?
FetLife and The Single Gal
How Porn and BDSM Helped Me

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

Tall guys! You’re a bunch of sick perverts!
In Which I Fuck Up and My Uterus Saves Me
Why Is There So Much Shame?
Birds do it, Bees do it…
Little Lower Layer
Wooing, pursuing, romancing a dominant woman
Sexual Freedom. Why Do I Feel I Need to Hide.
Our Age Gap Shouldn’t Be Your Insecurity
Advanced kegel: stroking with only PC muscles
Impress your lover with these oral sex moves

Sex News,Opinion, Interviews, Politics & Humor

The Hashtag Activism…It Burns It!
Sex Worker Etiquette
Rant Break: SCOTUS and Hobby Lobby Rage
Subs Need Classes Too!

Erotic Fiction

A Flight Attendants Secret
Relentless
Sit
Festival car park fun
Private Performance
And The Band Played On
Consequences Part One

Blogging

A warning for erotic writers and sex bloggers
Bloggy, Soggy, and Sexy

Erotic Non-Fiction

Don’t Ever Make Me Wait Again
Words

Poetry

Satan’s String – a Lusty Limeric

Writing About Writing

Writing Erotica for Trans Readers Pt 1

YKINMKBTOK [WW107]

Lemme say that I have known that I have always preferred “different” sex. Since I was 5 years old, discovering my body. How good it felt to lay on the bathroom floor after a bath and masturbate. That always felt good until my grandmother found me and shamed me into thinking that all that behavior is bad. I will say the one who told me that it was ok, was my grandfather. He took me aside and told me that it was ok. He also told me a few other things. Like not to tell anyone what I do. Don’t talk about it. It was something to keep to myself. I always remembered how awful I felt when my grandmother scolded me at 5 years old. I try to keep that in mind when I see, read or hear about sex adventures, kinks, fetishes that are different from mine. I don’t want to hurt someone’s feeling. I don’t want to judge them. I will admit to not understanding some kinks or fetishes. Then I do research on it, sometimes I just let it go. Until a time when I can ask someone who enjoys that kink.

Your kink is not my kink. I guess this is where I would say that scat, urine play is not my kink. Anything play involving children, animals or non-consenting adults (impaired). Incest involving parent/minor is a NO. This excludes role play such as daddy/daughter because I think it’s on a different level. Besides both adults are not related. My kinks are not mommy/baby/diaper/lactating play. I can accept first cousins having sex as consenting adults or even as kids (like two 13 years) when they first experiment with their sexuality. When it’s forced on a child that’s not cool. I do not like anything with the exchange of bodily fluids that is outside the normal sex exchange. Like ass to mouth or when a chick eats cum out of another chicks ass or twat. I can’t relate to any of the henti or tentacle sex. Can’t relate to sex with objects such as furniture, cars. No blood, no farts or vomit play. No fucking dead people. No balloon, stuffed animal play. Those are not my kinks [period]

Your kink is not my kink, but your kink is OK.  Most anything to do with ropes, I’m just not into. Tying me up. The knots are beautiful to view. However, it does nothing for me. I admire those who work long & hard tying up their partner and then shares the photos. However, it’s just not my kink. Not to say that it’s not ok. Of course it’s ok, because it’s your kink, not mine. [I am willing to try it out just to find out how it feels. I just thought of something sitting here as I type. I have nylon rope that I won back in December. Maybe I can try some breast bondage to find the answer that I search.]  I think I’m a switch when it comes to being either dominant or submissive. Yet, I don’t get into the hardcore BDMS. It depends on who I’m with that determines whether I am dom/sub with them. Hardcore BDMS like vampire gloves, anal hooks, paddles. It’s ok that you enjoy your kink. I’ll just watch. Because that’s make kink – voyeurism.

Your kink is OK, it’s just not my kink. Married to a pretty vanilla man. I had to explain lots of things to him. He was closed off, when we first got together. He knew a few of my kinks, like leather. I needed to find out his kinks, so that we could have a mutual understanding of each other’s needs. One night I would wear the pantyhose. His kink. Cutting out the crotch in the pantyhose and having sex. He doesn’t wear them, although he did. We both did, to find out how it felt. He was in heaven, me? Not so much. Now add a twist of wearing the crotch-less pantyhose out somewhere. Having sex in the car, outside, in the public bathroom. That’s my kink. Not his. But it has worked for us in the past. His other kink that works for me is playing “dressing up.”

He used to buy his first wife clothes for her birthday, holidays. She told his mother “He is always trying to dress me like a slut.” One day out shopping with my MIL. I showed her a dress and made a comment “Your son would love it if I wore this.” She tells me the story about the clothes & the first wife and dressing slutty. I laughed replying “It’s ok. I’ve always been a little slutty.” This is “our” kink. He loves taking photos of me dressed up. He is typical when it comes to women in high heels, dressed slutty. That’s easy for me to do. We often go shoe shopping together, he’ll pick out something to see if I like it or not.

He has recently expressed an interest in biting me. Which is one of my kinks. I love to bite. He never did, he started the other night. Just biting my ass cheeks, as I laid on my tummy watching TV. I was shocked, but said nothing. Just enjoyed the ride. Another one of his kinks (that to me is hardcore) is rape play. However he is just beginning to get in touch with this kink. He is just a bit fearful as to how much, how forceful he can be, etc. He enjoys anything that has to do with forcing (a consenting female). This kink is ok. Not one of my top five, but that’s ok. We would add the element of sleeping. I would take an ambien. Always careful with drugs & sex. This another one of my kinks, but at the bottom of the list. Drugs or alcohol & sex. I trust my spouse, while UTI, I don’t suggest this for everyone. He enjoyed  “taking advantage of a helpless woman.”  Most of the time I would wake up, sometimes I’d fall back asleep. His kink is OK, it’s just not my kink (sometimes).

My kinks are my kinks. Here are just a few…

  • Biting
  • Barehanded spanking
  • deep throating/gagging blow jobs
  • hair pulling
  • leather
  • rough sex
  • sleepy sex
  • tongue sucking
  • voyeurism
  • choking
  • role play (dressing up. Maid, school girl, nylons, high heels, secretary.)
  • emotional sadism
  • modeling high heels for shoe fetishists

Those are my kinks and that’s ok, because they’re mine. CLICK the banner below to read more about YKINMKBTOK

Handcuffs [KOTW]

 

FebPhotoFest Day 27

FebPhotoFest
Day 27

I know that handcuffs is one of the first items that people in general think of when BDSM is mentioned. Why? I’m not sure. I can only relate to my own personal experience with handcuffs. Which is not positive. Looking back it was so long ago, it seems almost difficult to remember. It is not as painful to remember anymore.

My father a very macho authoritative man, who I compared to the movie characters of “Police Inspector Harry Callahan” and “Paul Kersey” and “Oscar Madison.” I don’t know why these characters remind me of my father, but they do. Perhaps the sarcastic sense of humor, the rebellion, just the way the men are assholes in their own way.

When my father first joined the department he’s ego was something else. He would strut around in that uniform. The smell of leather filled my nostrils. A part of me felt a form of comfort, another part felt a sense of fear. I loved to hear the leather crackle when he moved. Then there were the handcuffs. They were bright & shiny, held in their own leather pouch. I heard the sound of the snap of the pouch. I knew that they were either going in or coming out.

FebPhotoFest Day 27

FebPhotoFest
Day 27

There was a time when I was so out of control when I was little. My father being a single parent, living at home with his parents trying to be independent would lose his patience with me. Looking back, I don’t blame him. Not for his actions, he didn’t know any better. We were a loving dysfunctional completely fucked up family. The good intentions were there.

At times, he would get so upset with me. Because of pushing and pushing the limits of every thing and every one. I would hear the snap of the handcuff pouch and he would grab my wrist. Clamp. Then he would clamp the other end to the doorknob of closet door. He would yell at me for being out of control. It only took me two times to know that I didn’t like the feeling of handcuffs on my wrist.

Afterwards he would explain to me about relaxing the body so that it wouldn’t feel so tight against my skin. Not to struggle. He also taught me how to get my arms in front of me when handcuffed with my arms behind me. I’m not that flexible anymore. He would give me the cuffs to play with (for a while). They felt heavy in my hands, cold metal feeling. The sound they made when I would closed the circle and push it back through, that grinding type of sound. Now I have a small collection of handcuffs. Earrings. Thumb cuffs. Play handcuffs. Handcuff belt. I need a necklace and bracelet. Hint, hint.

Here is my collection of Hand Cuff stuff.

Here is my collection of Hand Cuff stuff.

Handcuffs have never been part of my sex life. I can’t even remember if any man ever even suggested using them. If they did, I’m sure my answer was no. I have no desire to use them. However, I’m sure that if my sadistic/dominant side was allowed to be released (without consequences). I could easily use them – on YOU.

FebPhotoFest Day 27

FebPhotoFest
Day 27

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E[Lust] #55

Photo courtesy of Sex with Rose

Welcome to e[lust] – The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at e[lust]. Want to be included in e[lust] #56? Start with the rules, come back March 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!

~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~

Why I Post Nude Photos (and blog about sex)
Discovering Myself Through My Strap-On
Sex Toy Shaming and Bigoted Wise Cracks, FTW!

~ Featured Post (Molly’s Picks) ~

Aftercare and BDSM Play
Two worlds

~ Readers Choice from Sexbytes ~

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All blogs that have a submission in this edition must re-post this digest from tip-to-toe on their blogs within 7 days. Re-posting the photo is optional and the use of the “read more…” tag is allowable after this point. Thank you, and enjoy!

Erotic Fiction

Come Again
Undiluted
Shudder
Tattoo
And When I Take You…..
Ride on the Night bus
Superotica Valentine – Day 1
The spelling lesson

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

Please let me just say “no.”
5 Easy Mistakes to Make While Flirting
SexyLittleIdeas – The Woman in the Dark Alley
Comparisons
Treasured Property
Supporting Love and Freedom
Predicting My Own Future
Let’s Go Down Again
How to eat my pussy
10 (non-sexual) ways to be intimate with your
Permission to be Human: Granted.
Squirting: What Science Says

Erotic Non-Fiction

Date with V. (N. Likes)
Luscious
Saving Movie Night
Wicked Wednesday: Nervous
The Painter
Stolen Moments Turn Into Treasured Memories
The Art of the Blow Job and Deepthroat
Stun Guns & Happiness
Fatal’s First Time (with a Hitachi)
First Session
Probation Officer #145: Bowre of blisse 9
Trust Games

Blogging

you will ask Me to fuck your ass
Fish & Chips
This is not an invitation
Men I Have Known
My Storyyy (Trigger Warning)

Thoughts & Advice on Kink & Fetish

More Than Whips and Chains
Being shouted at: kink or abuse?
Explaining violence and sex
Awww Yeah – Targeted Marketing!
Grass is always greener – swinging
Lazy Dog Sex Position

Sex News,Opinion, Interviews, Politics & Humor

Valentine’s Day Sex Toy Selections
Discovering My Sexuality
Pathologizing Male Aggression

Poetry

Sex is…

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