Recently I saw a post discussing how “anti-social” the social networks are becoming. How the privacy level on some sites are very good and other sites do not have one. I, for one, use the internet, along with social networks to mingle with others. Not really investing into others like I did with previous onliners. Some “e-friends” I still have since 2007. I continue to text, phone, YES talking to them on the phone, emailing them. It’s a true relationship of friendship. Others have fallen by the sidelines, only to be rekindled down the road.
I do like the way some social networks are open for viewing, but in order to comment one must be a member of that site. I also think that there “e-cliques” on the internet. Groups of people who are tightly connected and its difficult sometimes for strangers or new members to be included or involved, thus the feeling of “anti-social” networking.
I recently added a few more from NING onto my Facebook, that I hadn’t spoken to since NING closed down back in 2010 or was is 2009? Either way, I reconnected with them, it’s wonderful having them back into my life. We had shared so much back in the day. Now, I feel it is more difficult to meet & make e-friends that are gonna be around for awhile. I do talk, response to most anyone who contacts me first. I think it’s only the polite thing to do, however, there are some onliners that I just connect with immediately, others I don’t get any feeling for them, strange.
I believe that we cross paths with others for a reason, whatever that reason, we should embrace that time together and learn to accept when it is time to let go of them. That’s the hardest part I think of most people, Being online, it is easier just to delete someone from my life. Why keep them around? If you realize that the pattern of behavior is still the same month after month, why stay? There are times when I feel down, but not everyday. Why would I want someone I met online who is a downer, to be around me trying to bring me down too? Also, we are in a world of instant gradification, I believe people are generally self centered, wanting others around for a variety of reasons, when an individual doesn’t supply that instant gratification the other person leaves and leaves quickly. It’s that easy. Why have someone like that in the cyber world when we all have those individuals in our real life. I think most come to the internet for escape from the real world and all its complications.
I love sites that have privacy features, so that I can keep my personal life …personal. It’s for my close family and close friends. People that I am honored to call e-friends or school/class mates and family. They can see into my daily life, see photos, comment on my private life. If someone wants in that fortess, all they need do is ask. It’s funny how I have my blogs connected to my “Cat’s Tales” facebook, page. Strangers can know & listen to what I am doing, but I don’t want some of my close family & friends knowing. You could say I live in a cyber world and in the real world, either one is fine with me. I love visiting with my e-friends and the real lifers, glad they are all in my life.
Do you like having the option of deleting someone from your life with a button? Have you any awful experiences online with individuals? If so, are you leary of who you connect with now? How long is your longest e-friendship?