Dates, Mates & Relationships [TMITuesday]

1. Which of these are you most often guilty of in a relationship:
a. jealousy…..this is really bad when I’m drunk. I’m jealous over men that I have no right to be, because they are not mine. I get a tab jealous of my few female friends however, not as much as with my men.
b. not apologizing…..I never used to say “sorry.” My beloved worked on me for years, I do apologize when its my fault or if I hurt you.
c. not keeping your word
d. guilt trips…not so much anymore, but I can still manipulate a situation for my benefit.

2. Which of the following behaviors would annoy you most in a partner.
a. fishing for compliments by verbalizing self-doubt…I do this more than he does, but he still does it just doesn’t bother me.
b. passive-aggressive behavior…this would get on nerves after a while.
c. usually forgets important dates i.e., birthday, anniversary…don’t really care all that much. Because I discussed that ahead of time. The only real important date is my birthday! My card and or gift must be on the dining room table before I start my day. Or it must be handed to me before my birthday, not the evening of shit.
d. making you feel guilty when spending time with friends

3. Consider you are looking for a mate, rank these traits in order of importance, with 1 being most important, and 7 being least important.
_5_ Kindness
_1__ Honesty
_6_ Ambitious
_3__ Confidence
_2__ Reliable
_7__ Assertive
_4__ Sense of Humor

4. Score! You exchanged numbers with a hottie. Now you: (pick one)
a. Wait for a week, see if that person calls you first.
b. Call the next day if not sooner.
c. Call and text incessantly. Let them know they’ve made an impression.
d. You’d never call. What if you get rejected?

5. How did you handle your last relationship break up?
a. You’ve never been in a relationship before. The timing’s never been right.
b. You went out and got drunk every night, until you forgot everything.
c. You went out on a massive amount of date, even with people you knew you had no interest, making sure to date a new face every night.
d. You felt bad and cried, but bounced back in a couple of days….months and months..I think that’s a year. LOL

Bonus: Would you take a holiday all by yourself, at the ‘spur of the moment’? Why or Why not? Where would you go? Probably not. I’m too scared to go too far from home…alone. I could travel to someone’s place by myself…but not just go somewhere, anywhere alone or spur of the moment.

 

TMI Tuesday: December 6, 2016

1. What story does your family always tell about you?

A. My grandfather would often tell the story from my childhood. It was winter, grandpa worked on the railroad. He received an early morning phone call that he needed to come in to get the crew together for snow removal. I was still in elementary school. Wearing my uniform including a pair of leotards (there’s a word for you from the past. They were the very thick tights). I walked past my grandparents room, he was getting dressed….”GRANDPA?! You wear leotards too??!!!

I said loudly. He laughed and laughed. “No, mija. They’re called thermal underwear or long-johns. I wear them under my pants to keep me warm.”

OH.” I replied. Continuing to the kitchen.

B. I’m not attracted to the same skin color as mine, nor am I attracted to Latino men. (Yeah I know shame on me). But curious about them, I seized an opportunity to experience a Latino for the first time. I was in my 20’s, had a few shots of tequila and ended up back in his hotel room. I remember riding his (below average sized) cock, everything was great until he started speaking Spanish. Spanish I wasn’t familiar with. He is getting ready to cum and he yells in Spanish…”I’M ARRIVING! I’M ARRIVING!!” and then in English, but with an accent. I laughed so hard I fall off his cock….Now I made the mistake of telling my older female cousin. So when ever she had an opportunity to tell this story and yell “I’M ARRIVING!” she would.

2. At what age did you become an adult? 

Not sure what is meant by this question. I still don’t think I’m an adult.

3. What is the most embarrassing thing you know about your parents?

I’ve seen both my parents drunk. One was very very drunk and passed out. The other one was somewhere between buzzed and drunk. I’ve seen them like this once, it was a very emotional time for all of us. I don’t hold it against them.

4. This year, what is the most important life lesson you’ve learned?

This is a tough question. I can’t think of anything now. Maybe something like, treasure every minute with a loved one, because you don’t know what the future holds.

 5. Describe your childhood self in 5 words. Were you happy?

Alone. Invalid. No I wasn’t happy. Unstable. I got three words.

 6. Who in your family has been kindest to you?

There were a few cousins that I was close to through the years. Not sure if it was kindness or just not wanting to hear my whining. I’m sure it was more kindness, they understood that I was an only child and had a different view of the world.

Bonus:  Who are you closest to or trust the most– a friend or family member?

This would be my spouse. I trust him above everyone else and he’s my best friend. Sometimes I wonder if we ever divorced, would we still be friends. I think he would always be there for me if I ever needed him. I would be there for him as well….to the best of my ability.

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Cheating & Masturbating [TMI Tuesday]

1. Your thoughts–is oral sex cheating on your partner?  When I was in my 20’s I used to view cheating as only intercourse. Oral sex didn’t count. This is my opinion. Well, it was back then. Now cheating includes so much more than just intercourse.Blowjob in the cemetery
2. What is cheating to you?  Cheating to me, includes such things as intercourse, oral sex & emotional exchange with someone else than your partner.
3. Does your partner know you masturbate? Yes he knows. What do they think about that?  He views it as something we all do.
4. Think about the best sex you’ve ever had. Why do you consider it the best, what makes it so? Some of my best sex has been times when I have had multiple orgasms. Other times when I have had no orgasms. Funny, but when I think back to all my former sex partners I seldom think of my ex-husband. I wonder why that is? We had lots & lots of sex. I experimented with him, had lots of firsts with him, but I just don’t think of any of our sexual adventures.
5. When you have nightmares, do you call out someone’s name? No I don’t. In my nightmares I hear myself yelling or talking loudly, but my husband tells me that I just moan in my sleep. A sorrowful, fearful sounding moan and he will wake me up if he gets worried. Because my nightmares are always about someone trying to kill me, something in our room and the room has no air and I can’t breathe.
6. When you’re having an orgasm, do you scream a name? When I was single I had sex with different men. I told myself never say any names because I might say the wrong one. So, it’s not something I normally do, I feel weird saying anyones names out lout. One of my lovers always asked me to say his name. I made an exception to my rule and would scream out his name when I was having an orgasm. My favorite times was when I was on top of him, riding his hard cock and I would lean down pressing my breast to his chest. Whispering his name in his ear. Telling him how good his cock felt and say his name a few more times.

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Bonus: Which best fits your usual reason for masturbating:
a. Boredom
b. Stress relief
c. Saw someone/something sexy and you need to act out a sexual fantasy
d. It’s just what I do

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Sex Confessions [TMI]

1. Have you ever devoted an entire day to sex and sexual activity (with breaks for eating, etc)? Was it planned or spontaneous? Any kinky fun? Yes I have in the past. There have been days I have called into work sick just to have sex with someone. When I was younger in my 20’s I did that a lot. Most of the time it was planned. Kinky fun? Just once that I can remember. He used nipple clamps on me, there was food involved, porn on the TV but that’s not really truly kinky is it?

2. Have you had sex simultaneously with two or more people in a private residence? Did you know them well or was it a setup casual encounter? Yes and you can read all about it here.

3. Have you gone out in public wearing an anal plug or vibrator device? No. I have not.

4. Have you ever fantasized about or practiced orgasm control/denial? I have practiced orgasm denial on a few of my playmates in the past. On my hubby, a few times in the beginning of our marriage. I loved every minute of it.

5. Do you like being called dirty names during sex? What names get you off the best? When it’s that hard, dirty sex or that angry sex, when it’s animal fucking. I love being called a slut or whore, roughed around a little bit.

Bonus: The confessional is open–confess anything you want (sexual or not). Can’t think of anything …ok…I can, but I’m not that comfortable sharing it.

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Love is in the Air [TMITuesday]

1. List 3 benefits of living with your significant other.

  1.  Someone to spend quiet evenings at home with.
  2.  Someone to share household expenses with.
  3.  Someone to have sex with when the urge strikes me.

2. Have you ever reunited with a past lover and begun a relationship? Several times, like a sex-crazed lunatic.

Was the latest relationship as friends or lovers? Currently we are friends, more like drinking buddies. He is the one who brings up sex, but we never go through with it anymore.

3. Do you think someone is more sexy if they regularly read books or work out regularly at a gym? No. Sexy is a state of mind or being. Being book smart and or physically fit would definitely add to the sexiness.

4. How likely do you think it is that your marriage will end in divorce? Absolutely not. I never think it ever.

5. Who has more power in your love or romantic relationship–you or your partner? Depends on what you consider “power.”

Bonus: Describe the best Valentine’s Day you’ve ever had. When I received a dozen red roses from an anonymous admirer. Made my heart melt. I let him go because he was younger than me, I was too wild, untamable and I had little kids. He had no experience with someone like me. At the time I felt like used goods. He was such a sweet hearted man, I would hate myself for allowing him to get any closer to me than I had already allowed. I wonder where he is now. 

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Autumn Lovin’ [TMI 9/29/15]

Autumn Lovers

1. Autumn or fall. Which do you say?

2. Pumpkin Spice. Love it or hate it? I think the pumpkin spice thing has been overplayed. It’s great for desserts, but when it gets into certain foods, then it’s a huge turn-off to me. YUK! 

3. Apples. Seasonal treat or eat them all year? I eat them all year round, but more than usual during the fall. I love plain apples with caramel dip as an everyday snack. YUM!

4. Where you live, do tree leaves change color in fall? ohhhh yeah and it’s beautiful!!!

5. In autumn truffles are popular in Italy, seafood is popular in Ireland, crayfish popular in Stockholm. What is a popular autumn food where you live? Apples….there are several orchards a person can visit. 

6. Scientists observed that the further a country is away from the equator, the more its residents are affected by the seasons. How do you feel in autumn/fall? Depressed, rejuvenated or some other emotion? I suffer from Seasonal Affective Disorder. I spiral emotionally out of control beginning around September and it lasts until march or so the following year. 

7. Strolls amid fall foliage are:
a. romantic
b. allergy inducing
c. dirty
e. prime-time to “rustle the leaves” (if you know what I mean *wink, wink*)

8. What is your favorite autumn holiday, celebration or activity? HALLOWEEN!!!!! 

Bonus: Do you go apple picking in autumn? I did when the kids were little, everyone should go at least once in their life. Ever made out in an apple orchard? No. Never had the inkling.

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Deep Thoughts on TMI Tuesday

1. What three things do you expect from a relationship with a lover/spouse?

  1. Respect
  2. Trust
  3. Communication

2. What three things do you expect from a relationship with your child?

  1. Respect
  2. Trust
  3. Communication

3. How do you mend a broken heart?

I tend to cry in the shower when no one is listening. I tend to listen to music, watch movies that would help me in some way understand what went wrong. I analysis every action and reaction during the relationship. Mostly try to figure out what I did or did not do to cause the pain. 

4. What is your favorite therapy (remedial treatment of mental or bodily disorder)?

During the summer it’s jumping on the motorcycle and going for a long ride to clear my head of the toxic thoughts. Listening to music that will help me understand and process the events that got me to where I am when needing this therapy. I try to keep myself from acting out, like I have in the past. Acting out in ways that would harm myself such as; risky sex, reckless & impulsive behaviors. I also try to keep myself busy. My hands and my mind busy, distracted so that I do not focus on the pain or some thing else that will cause me to act out.

5. Who in your life has an annoying habit?  

I’m sure there is someone in my life that has some annoying habit that just drives me crazy, but now I can’t think of anything. How do you deal with this?

6. In five words, describe yourself. You cannot use the following words: funny, fun, nice, kind, responsible.

  1. Impulsive
  2. Emotional
  3. Outspoken
  4. Thrifty
  5. Dependable

Bonus: If in a long time, romantic relationship do you still flirt? Yes. How do you flirt with your significant other? Not sure, how. I know I just do.

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Welcome to My Blog [TMI Tuesday]

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1. How long have you been blogging? I have blogged since 2009. I started with blogger. I deleted that blog. Then started another one. I started several different ones on WordPress and tumblr. Always getting bored, deleting them and starting over. Until I became self-hosted in January 2013. I tried to keep my general & sex topics separate, eventually I said “fuck it.” And started my sex blog

2. Tell us about your pen name? My pen is “Sassy Cat”  Is it a pen name? Not really. It’s the name I’ve used online over the years. I even have it tattooed on my forearm.

3. What is your blog about? It’s about whatever I decide to write about. I am interested in so much stuff. However, I have narrowed topics down to writing about my personal (past & present) experiences with sex. Writing about Borderline Personality Disorder, this is also participating in a year around meme called “Blog for Mental Health 2015.” Lastly I write product reviews. Whatever product that is given to me, I will share my honest view after I have used that product.

4. Do you earn any money with your blog? No. However, it would be really cool if I did.

5. What inspired you to blog? There were really two reasons why I started blogging. The being that I was being cyberbullied and cyber stalked about someone I met on a website called Snapvine. Basically what it boiled down to is that she thought I was after her man. Who lived in another state from both of us. She finally recognized that he was playing her against me. He would stop being friends with one of us, than friend the other. But she & he would blog about me, she would do podcasts swearing at me and threatening me. I finally went to the police, starting a file on her. I sent off all my paperwork and files from the web to the website that the local authorities gave to me. I submitted files to the websites that she was using to harass me, some would do something, others did nothing. Eventually she come to understand what she was doing, she apologized to me. We are not best friends, she’s helpful when it comes to Facebook issues. It’s like she knows that I’m here and she’s there. She does follow me still to this day, but no longer harassing me or bullies me.

The second reason was I started writing about some of my past sexual experiences. Nothing really special, about different lovers, an ongoing relationship I had when I was married (separated, waiting for the divorce), he was married. This was on blogger, then I moved it over here. Some of it I re-wrote to make it sound updated & fresh. I got kind of behind on writing about all my sexual adventures. It became too much, I still have a few in my drafts folder that I write a few words and then hit the save button.

Lately, I’ve been taking erotic photographs and posting to Flickr and Instagram. I really enjoyed doing that. Editing the photos takes some time which does get to me (sometimes). I recently was given a Nikon D5300 for my birthday and will be taking LOTS & LOTS of erotic photos. Consider yourself warned! lol

6. What keeps you blogging? I keep blogging because I still have things to share. Products to write reviews about. I write some of the thoughts that bounce around in my head. I wish I could type faster. That’s one reason I started podcasting or audio blogging. I could get more of my thoughts out quickly being speaking & recording audio.

7. Do you have any advice for readers looking for love? Looking to get laid? Looking for a threesome? My experience with threesomes are one of becoming one point of the triangle. I would suggest do it once or twice  but don’t get too personally involved with the couple or the people.

8. Did you do your kegels today? Yes. When was the last time you did them? This afternoon. (Men: There is no evidence that kegels prevent erectile dysfunction. Source: WebMD )

Bonus: Do you have any special sexual gifts or talents or tricks? Tell us about it. I have no gag reflex. And that makes my special trick giving awesome blowjobs, resulting most of the time in swallowing.

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